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‘A Jihad for Love’

In March 2009, I studied a documentary as an ethnographic artifact. Here are some notes from my watching of the film A Jihad for Love (2007) directed by Parvez Sharma. Please feel free to use with credits back to this page.



Trailer (2:11):



Running theme

Pray to remove desire, replace desire with love, “to die as Muslims”.


Gay Muslim, Islamic scholar, South Africa

– Reconcile Islam and homosexuality; take the good out of Islam, receive judgment at the end of the day; better than suicide.

– Others feel homosexuality is “bringing down the name of Islam”, better to be thrown off a mountain, death, suicide.

– “If it can be changed, god will help me to change”, “could not fit myself into Islam”, married a woman to “try to change”, but feel in love with best friend instead.

– Still has close relationship with children, having a gay father is “fate”, accept the challenge to emerge stronger. Jihad = struggle with self, personal war.

– Had to resign from teaching in religious schools, “prepared to die”, knows the mentality of his community.

– Asked Allah to help rid of this, not a personal choice; fasted, still engage in Ramadan.

– Different interpretation of Islam VS tailor interpretations to fit desires VS cannot use Koran as blanket condemnation, “taking rights away” as crime, homosexuality per se is not crime.

– Asked to return to own Muslim society to speak to social workers after a few years.

– God of fear VS god of love.


Mazen, Gay Muslim, Cairo Egypt

– Homosexuality considered a crime; got arrested by police who gathered a horde of men outside “Queenboat” cruise.

– Vice squad detention, obscenities hurled at them, deny homosexuality and got beaten by police, imprisoned for one year, and got raped.

– Put on second trial and sentenced to another three years, escaped Egypt to be refugee in Paris.

– “God has a reason for what is happening”.

– Sees apartment approval as prophet’s birthday blessings.

– Close religious relationship with mother.

– Has other “sexually-deviant” friends; dresses up, puts make up, belly dances; “I’m known for dancing like a man”.


Lesbian Couple, France

– 10% of France is Muslim.

– “My loving a woman caused no harm… I only loved”; god “created you in the best of forms”, so no one has the right to alter god’s creations.

– Mercy of god VS shiaria and harem (sin).

– “Love is something powerful”, love is more important than sex; couple shares religious views, “No other god, but god”, “live through the test together”, live with each other and god.

– Solution from “Islam Online” is to get married; believe living in monastery might help; asked god to rid of this or help her die; wish to enter holy pilgrimage site to rid of intimate relations, but highly restricted against ladies unless accompanied by husband or brother.

– Lesbianism without penetration is not serious, only punishment is scolding VS feel guilty, feel better if punished.


Amir, Gay, Iran

– Shiaria is the legal law; gay party raided, got imprisoned, 100 lashes on the back as punishment.

– Son of martyr, father died in Iran-Iraq war; police said he disgraced father.

– Feels god is helping him at every step.


4 refugees, Gay, Iran

– Being gay in turkey is like suppressing your cries.

– Afraid for family’s safety despite having left Iran.

– Misses home but left o save own life; UNHCR asylum, pending case approval to move to Canada, or get deported back to Iran.

– 2005, proper wedding to boyfriend of 6 years; video spread and seized by police, no evidence for UN now.

– “How can I be free when so many others can’t”, “Today is my new birthday”.


Lesbian Couple, Turkey

– Turkey is a secular state, no same-sex penetration criminalization.

– Preaching: love as the foundation of human relationships.

– Couple feel being women in Muslim community is like being imprisoned, captives in live.

– Forced marriage at 16, underdeveloped organs, painful pregnancy.

– Parental acceptance of relationship.


Historical figures, India

– India has 2nd largest Muslim population worldwide, after colonialism ended, homosexual laws not as stringent.

– Annual celebration of gay couple in history.

– Unnatural tendency will go away if god wishes; if god forgives you, no one can judge you VS you have a disease, you should see a psychologist.

– God gave a man the heart of a woman; used to cross-dress but feels he was disgracing religion; still cross-dresses to dance now.

– God is there for everyone, including prostitutes and gays.



Why was the film banned at the Singapore International Film Festival?

– Singapore’s OB markers on religion and ethnicity.

– Censorship restricts information, no alternative viewpoints, preserve dominant ideology.

– VS controversial hype to up movie’s popularity, arouse more curiosity.

– State makes sense of judgment at the top level, on behalf of individuals, neglect individual agency, bring down cultural diversity.


Do Muslims treat Gays and Lesbians differently?

– Strict interpretation of Koran, gay homosexuality is more serious.

– Gender hierarchy and patriarchy; shameful for men to adopt a subordinate position in the women’s role.

– Lesbians as love, gays as penetration; phallic-centric sex, no penetration = no sex.

– Women’s focus within Islam is on virginity and purity.


Disputes among South African social workers about text in Koran.

– Different interpretations by different authorities; battle of preaching, who is the arbiter of truth.

– Too many “imans”, democracy VS monopolization.

– Power is translated from class?


What are the connotations of “community”?

– Presence of Malay/Muslim community VS no Chinese community.

– Majority/minority, numbers as power, assume Sg hegemony is Chinese-based.

– Double-edged sword: minority solidarity from oppression and support VS increases pressures to conform to peer influences, surveillance increased due to fewer numbers. Eg. Tudung wearing.

– Group becomes isolate, mobile, coherent, “the other”.


Gender segregation.

– Creates conditions of homosociality, in turn creates conditions for intimacy.

– Culture caught in a trap.


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