Negotiating love and life on Fei Cheng Wu Rao/If You Are The One – (9) Existential navigations

This is the last installment of a series of 9 blogposts. Read earlier posts here:
(1) Introduction
(2) The physical
(3) The body specific
(4) Demographical compatibility
(5) Family life
(6) Self-identity
(7) Gendered imaginaries
(8) Personal interests and abstract metaphors

This ninth installment aims to loosely thematize some discursive negotiations of love and life based on season 5 of Fei Cheng Wu Rao (非诚勿扰)/If You Are The One around ‘Existential navigations’. [Image heavy]

Screen grabs obtained from ‘Commemorative Fashion Shoes‘ Tumblr with permission from the owner

(a) What is love?

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What is love not?

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I love you like I love:

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Love is so complex.

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(b) Some times love is strange.

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Some times people are strange.

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Some times this show is strange.

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(c) But we’re all just trying to figure life out, one Fei Cheng Wu Rao episode at a time.

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All the existential crises.

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All the peculiar crises.

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Maybe people are just looking for love.

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But some understand the praxis and hard practicalities of love-seeking more than others.

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Any thoughts? Beep me! Thanks for hanging in there with the nine-parter. Fei Cheng Wu Rao is so much gold.

Negotiating love and life on Fei Cheng Wu Rao/If You Are The One – (8) Personal interests and abstract metaphors

This is part 8 of a series of 9 blogposts. Read other posts in the series here:
(1) Introduction
(2) The physical
(3) The body specific
(4) Demographical compatibility
(5) Family life
(6) Self-identity
(7) Gendered imaginaries
(8) Personal interests and abstract metaphors
(9) Existential navigations

This eighth installment aims to loosely thematize some discursive negotiations of love and life based on season 5 of Fei Cheng Wu Rao (非诚勿扰)/If You Are The One around ‘Personal interests and abstract metaphors’. [Image heavy]

Screen grabs obtained from ‘Commemorative Fashion Shoes‘ Tumblr with permission from the owner

(a) Some times people look like food.

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Some times people are overly affectionate towards food. Or corn. Maybe just corn.

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And meat.

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And congee.

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And milk. People like very specific foods.

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Some people take their food very seriously.

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But some people are just not *that* into food.

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(b) All the fair ladies become arbiters of fashion and taste.

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Although some claim to be plain Janes despite the visual juxtaposition.

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But the men have expectations too.

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And perhaps, some very specific fashion fetishes.

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Some times the women engage in a refracted male gaze and attempt to typify their desirability.

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There are some hits. And some misses. Or maybe fashion is just too avant garde to define.

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(c) Fashion aside, some contestants resemble hyper-morphic creatures and objects.

Animals are a big hit.

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Although animated animals tend to be more popular.

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Cartoons? Superheros?

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Some imageries are just bewilderingly ambiguous.

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(d) If you’re all out of hobbies, dating can be a great time-filler.

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Some contestants have more artistic pursuits.

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Body contact and sport is desired in the appropriate extents.

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Some hobbies are more exotic.

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Others hardly exist. (Sheer honesty?)

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(e) All hobbies being equal, long live the Internet.

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Any thoughts? Beep me! The last installment eight on Existential navigations to come.

Negotiating love and life on Fei Cheng Wu Rao/If You Are The One – (7) Gendered imaginaries

This is part 7 of a series of 9 blogposts. Read other posts in the series here:
(1) Introduction
(2) The physical
(3) The body specific
(4) Demographical compatibility
(5) Family life
(6) Self-identity
(7) Gendered imaginaries
(8) Personal interests and abstract metaphors
(9) Existential navigations

This seventh installment aims to loosely thematize some discursive negotiations of love and life based on season 5 of Fei Cheng Wu Rao (非诚勿扰)/If You Are The One around ‘Gender imaginaries’. [Image heavy]

Screen grabs obtained from ‘Commemorative Fashion Shoes‘ Tumblr with permission from the owner

(a) Strict gender boundary policing here, folks. Men better resemble masculine males; women better resemble feminine females.

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Unless, of course, you’re the keen family/friend attempting to market the male contestant to the fullest of your abilities.

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Or if you were extremely confident in yourself…

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(b) And sexy is in.

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The women are mostly self-assured of their appeal too.

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But perhaps nothing is as sexy as providing for one’s intimate biological… conditions.

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(c) Some men have more… basic requirements in an ideal partner.

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This could be due to prior experience with rejection.

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Although, at times, these desires involve some cyborg/frankenstein mishmash.

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(d) Despite their multi-layered complexities, some women believe they are plain janes.

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Any thoughts? Beep me! Installment eight on Personal interests and abstract metaphors to come.

Negotiating love and life on Fei Cheng Wu Rao/If You Are The One – (6) Self-identity

This is part 6 of a series of 9 blogposts. Read other posts in the series here:
(1) Introduction
(2) The physical
(3) The body specific
(4) Demographical compatibility
(5) Family life
(6) Self-identity
(7) Gendered imaginaries
(8) Personal interests and abstract metaphors
(9) Existential navigations

This sixth installment aims to loosely thematize some discursive negotiations of love and life based on season 5 of Fei Cheng Wu Rao (非诚勿扰)/If You Are The One around ‘Self-identity’. [Image heavy]

Screen grabs obtained from ‘Commemorative Fashion Shoes‘ Tumblr with permission from the owner

(a) Some of the male contestants are pretty confident with extremely high self-esteem.

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And in response, the women speak their mind.

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To avoid this,

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always remember these wise words.

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(b) Some men evaluate themselves.

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But some times this backfires.

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Other times, the men risk all to evaluate the female contenders.

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And some times family and friends attempt to shower (somewhat lukewarm) praise.

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(c) As evidenced, words are tricky things.

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Do not speak too much.

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Better still, do not speak at all.

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It really is difficult to ascertain one’s personality from haphazardly brief conversations. But hey, who’s keeping score?

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(d) Male contestants speak of their sadness and loneliness from being single.

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And this emotion may even manifest despite carefully curated stage(d) presence.

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A few attempt to negotiate and negate these darker emotions.

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Once in a blue moon, the women contenders also engage in vulnerable revelations.

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The general mood may be sombre, but it is strategically juxtaposed against the glimpse of finding love that the show offers.

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(e) Most other times, the power play is salient. The women pride themselves as conquests awaiting a worthy man.

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The discourse of ‘handling’ a woman often incites male contestants to snap into ‘challenge accepted‘ mode.

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Some women dish out tips and scripts for ‘taming’ them.

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Others are willingly subserviant.

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And some men do come ready with these expectations.

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Although a few admit to the challenge.

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And the cheeky sit-in psychologists are quick to relate power to pleasure.

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However, in some cases, it’s the women who prefer to command more power and decision-making.

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(f) Following from power and pleasure, we now look at a different form of aggression and pleasure… sort of?

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Can’t tell if affectionate jostling,

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Or actually borderline domestic violence.

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Some times, even the male contestants seem confused themselves.

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Or perhaps, some of this preference is rooted in a deep-rooted history?

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Any thoughts? Beep me! Installment seven on Gendered imaginaries to come.

Negotiating love and life on Fei Cheng Wu Rao/If You Are The One – (5) Family life

This is part 5 of a series of 9 blogposts. Read other posts in the series here:
(1) Introduction
(2) The physical
(3) The body specific
(4) Demographical compatibility
(5) Family life
(6) Self-identity
(7) Gendered imaginaries
(8) Personal interests and abstract metaphors
(9) Existential navigations

This fifth installment aims to loosely thematize some discursive negotiations of love and life based on season 5 of Fei Cheng Wu Rao (非诚勿扰)/If You Are The One around ‘Family life’. [Image heavy]

Screen grabs obtained from ‘Commemorative Fashion Shoes‘ Tumblr with permission from the owner

(a) Most of the women are on the show for marriage.

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Some of them have short-term goals.

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Others already have timelines all worked out.

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And some male contestants are happy to pander to these aspirations.

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(b) Some women desire marriage and a baby (again with the timelines).

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And a subset have specific rationales for their timelines.

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Some male contestants see childbearing and rearing as the crux of a woman’s responsibility/function/purpose in life.

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But there is little wonder why, given the time pressures and reminders about reproductive corporeal expiry dates.

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(c) Although the women contenders featured usually have full-time jobs and some level of financial independence, some desire to be homebodies.

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(d) Moving from homebodies to homemaking, some women are willing to take on the full burden of domestic chores.

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And some men expect this of them.

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Yet, expectations of gender role reversal are not uncommon.

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(e) Parents can be a tricky lot. Many female contenders and male contestants openly quip about signing up for the show to fulfill their (grand)parents’ last wishes of witnessing their marital bliss.

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Although there is the odd parent whose pressures/incentives are more… innovative.

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It seems parents give one all sorts of advice and yardsticks for assessing a prospective partner.

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As expected, parental approval is important.

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And better yet, the more alike, the more approval.

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Any thoughts? Beep me! Installment six on Self-identity to come.