Negotiating love and life on Fei Cheng Wu Rao/If You Are The One – (5) Family life

This is part 5 of a series of 9 blogposts. Read other posts in the series here:
(1) Introduction
(2) The physical
(3) The body specific
(4) Demographical compatibility
(5) Family life
(6) Self-identity
(7) Gendered imaginaries
(8) Personal interests and abstract metaphors
(9) Existential navigations

This fifth installment aims to loosely thematize some discursive negotiations of love and life based on season 5 of Fei Cheng Wu Rao (非诚勿扰)/If You Are The One around ‘Family life’. [Image heavy]

Screen grabs obtained from ‘Commemorative Fashion Shoes‘ Tumblr with permission from the owner

(a) Most of the women are on the show for marriage.

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Some of them have short-term goals.

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Others already have timelines all worked out.

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And some male contestants are happy to pander to these aspirations.

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(b) Some women desire marriage and a baby (again with the timelines).

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And a subset have specific rationales for their timelines.

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Some male contestants see childbearing and rearing as the crux of a woman’s responsibility/function/purpose in life.

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But there is little wonder why, given the time pressures and reminders about reproductive corporeal expiry dates.

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(c) Although the women contenders featured usually have full-time jobs and some level of financial independence, some desire to be homebodies.

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(d) Moving from homebodies to homemaking, some women are willing to take on the full burden of domestic chores.

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And some men expect this of them.

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Yet, expectations of gender role reversal are not uncommon.

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(e) Parents can be a tricky lot. Many female contenders and male contestants openly quip about signing up for the show to fulfill their (grand)parents’ last wishes of witnessing their marital bliss.

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Although there is the odd parent whose pressures/incentives are more… innovative.

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It seems parents give one all sorts of advice and yardsticks for assessing a prospective partner.

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As expected, parental approval is important.

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And better yet, the more alike, the more approval.

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